A commenter recently accused me of having many “hang-ups” about sex.
As far as the commenter was concerned, sex opened up possibilities for elevated expressions of love between people. He then added that the “gender” of the individuals participating in such elevated-love sex sessions was entirely irrelevant. In his mind, the biggest problem with sex in the modern world is its vulgarization via pornography. He then noted that very few young people were having sex today before asking me what I thought that indicated.
If the comment revealed anything, it is this – modern people think about sex in extremely confused and corrupted ways. I am not exempt. Nor are most of the people I know.
Sex is a strong motivator. I believe it has overtaken religion as the strongest motivator in people. The only open question now is – What is the motivation aiming for?
The above-mentioned commenter claims that sex motivation is actually “higher love motivation.” I suppose that is partially true. All the same, I am convinced that the commenter would struggle to distinguish sex from love or love from sex. For him, the two are synonymous, at least until someone films the act and posts it on the Internet.
Put another way, the commenter appears to have difficulty differentiating love from lust. As far as he is concerned, love is whenever two people get it on. Whether the two (or more?) participants getting it on are males or females or whatevers matters not.
What matters is the getting it on, and the potential higher forms of love such activity can engender.
Perhaps the easiest and most effective way to think about sex, lust, and love is to think about them through the perspective of alignment with God and Creation.
The problem with sex is desire. Desire can come from two very different sources: love and lust.
Love not only aligns with God’s creative purposes; it is God’s ultimate creative purpose.
Love that aligns with God and Creation should appeal to and motivate the deepest and highest self. It should also appeal to and motivate the beloved. It is love that appreciates beauty. Admires it. Nurtures it. It is love that seeks to expand Creation via relationships, which, when all is said and done, is the only way Creation can be expanded.
Lust appeals to the lower elements within us. Thus the only love lust can inspire is self-love. Moreover, lust is often grotesque and coarse. Lust degrades beauty. Scorns it. Deprives it. And, inevitably, destroys it. The relationship factor is utterly corrupted.
In the end, lust always diminishes Creation.
Simply put – Love sanctifies sex; lust profanes sex.
We really must begin sorting all of this out for ourselves with the guidance of the Holy Spirit . . .
As far as the commenter was concerned, sex opened up possibilities for elevated expressions of love between people. He then added that the “gender” of the individuals participating in such elevated-love sex sessions was entirely irrelevant. In his mind, the biggest problem with sex in the modern world is its vulgarization via pornography. He then noted that very few young people were having sex today before asking me what I thought that indicated.
If the comment revealed anything, it is this – modern people think about sex in extremely confused and corrupted ways. I am not exempt. Nor are most of the people I know.
Sex is a strong motivator. I believe it has overtaken religion as the strongest motivator in people. The only open question now is – What is the motivation aiming for?
The above-mentioned commenter claims that sex motivation is actually “higher love motivation.” I suppose that is partially true. All the same, I am convinced that the commenter would struggle to distinguish sex from love or love from sex. For him, the two are synonymous, at least until someone films the act and posts it on the Internet.
Put another way, the commenter appears to have difficulty differentiating love from lust. As far as he is concerned, love is whenever two people get it on. Whether the two (or more?) participants getting it on are males or females or whatevers matters not.
What matters is the getting it on, and the potential higher forms of love such activity can engender.
Perhaps the easiest and most effective way to think about sex, lust, and love is to think about them through the perspective of alignment with God and Creation.
The problem with sex is desire. Desire can come from two very different sources: love and lust.
Love not only aligns with God’s creative purposes; it is God’s ultimate creative purpose.
Love that aligns with God and Creation should appeal to and motivate the deepest and highest self. It should also appeal to and motivate the beloved. It is love that appreciates beauty. Admires it. Nurtures it. It is love that seeks to expand Creation via relationships, which, when all is said and done, is the only way Creation can be expanded.
Lust appeals to the lower elements within us. Thus the only love lust can inspire is self-love. Moreover, lust is often grotesque and coarse. Lust degrades beauty. Scorns it. Deprives it. And, inevitably, destroys it. The relationship factor is utterly corrupted.
In the end, lust always diminishes Creation.
Simply put – Love sanctifies sex; lust profanes sex.
We really must begin sorting all of this out for ourselves with the guidance of the Holy Spirit . . .
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